We live in an achievement-oriented society that can lead us into destination thinking. We might hear ourselves saying things like, “I’ll be more satisfied at work when I get a raise or promotion,” or, “I’ll be happy when I meet someone.”
But, what if we could be happy right now, regardless of our circumstances or situations?
Happiness can actually be a temporary experience, so I prefer to strive for contentment. Contentment seems to have a more lasting effect because it comes from building resilience and learning to cope with the pain of life in a healthy way and helps kick addiction.
Contentment comes to me through CBT – Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. CBT not only helps me remain free from addictions, but also helps me stay aware of my emotions, my thought patterns, and my self-talk. Thinking therapies like CBT teach me the techniques and tools I can use to manage my emotions and take persistent actions that will bring me the results I seek.
5 Steps to Kick Addictions to the Curb
Here are a few things to practice every day to help cultivate contentment in your life:
- Practice the Pause.
When you find yourself unhappy with someone or something, pause. Take a moment to put in some perspective and accept life and people as they are. There’s great power in knowing that the only thing we can control in life is ourselves.
2. Show appreciation.
When you speak & act with kindness, you build up your own emotional bank account.
3. Stop buying stuff.
When you feel the urge to buy something, think about whether it’s a “need” or a “want.” If it’s a “want,” think about why you’re not content with what you already have.
When we feed instant gratification, we learn to cope with life in a lazy way. When we can postpone gratification, we teach our brain to be resilient and, then, overcoming urges becomes easier. What we practice grows stronger!
- Learn to enjoy simple things.
Doing this is so much easier when we live in a town like Goderich. Take a walk around our beautiful town square! Walk our world-renowned waterfront boardwalk. Go to the library and learn something new. These things are free and often bring more fulfillment than things you buy.
- Live in the moment.
Waiting for a day when your life is less busy or less stressful may never come. Focus on the positives of today, rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.
Contentment is simply appreciation and acceptance
for the way things are right now.
For me, contentment is a feeling
that ripples through all areas of my life,
so I no longer need to escape from my life!
May the force be with you, and remember…
YOU are the force!
About the Author:
After 20+ years in broadcasting, I decided to pack up negative news and progressive addictions. My recovery kicked into high gear when I decided to stop being anonymous, and I started to speak & write publicly about my challenges to overcome addiction. I now devote myself to training, writing, and mentoring.
As a CBT Consultant, my professional focus is helping people create their personal ‘Blueprint for Recovery’ so they can heal from the pain of life and kick addictions to the curb. View our addiction recovery programs.
DISCLAIMER: This content is not intended to constitute, or be a substitute for, medical diagnosis or treatment. Never disregard medical advice from a doctor, or delay in seeking it, because of something you have watched, read, or heard from anyone at Red Roof Recovery.